Tips
to help you write your letter
Don't get angry, frustrated
or argue with him
Don't beg or plead.
Don't moralize
Don't ask questions
Don't apologize for being
there
Don't comfort him/her if
he/she cries
Don't demand confessions
Don't diagnose or judge
Don't compare him/her to
others
Do begin each statement
with love and concern
- Use positive points
whenever possible
- Look at him/her when
you speak
- If you cry, stop, collect
yourself...continue on. If you can't, motion for next person in
line to begin. We can always come back to you.
Remain CALM
A time limit may be needed
depending on how many people are participating in the intervention.
- If fewer than 6 - no
time limit will be needed, although 5 minutes should be enough for
everyone.
- If between 6 and 9 people
- 5 minutes tops.
- If between 9 and 11
people - 3 minutes.
